In our previous discussion on the issue of bitterness, we came to understand that bitterness could be as dangerous as deadly venom that can easily destroy the life of an individual. By definition, venom is a toxin that certain types of animals inject into other animals to break them down and cause degrees of illnesses and sometimes death. This may imply that Venomous animals are able to deliver such foreign chemical agents into their prey when hunting or as a defense mechanism.
It may be interesting to know that many of these venomous creatures are smaller than their prey however; they are capable of destroying them because of the potent chemical agents they carry. An example of such creatures is the box jellyfish or the sea wasp of Australia which weighs about 2kg or about 4.4lbs. Though less in weight and size, it is reported that this sea creature has caused the untimely death of many of its victims.
Venomous snakes and spiders such as the cobra and the black widow spider, can as well destroy their prey not regarding their size or height.
Many of these deadly animals affect their prey with such potent agents. However, by the advancement and innovation of the practice of pharmaceutical and medical science, other chemical agents have been acquired to reverse the effect of such deadly substances when they find their way into the human bodies.
In relating this idea to our daily life and the use of an antidote to bitterness, deadly venom, an individual must learn to seek for such relieve before danger strikes. It is understood that the actions of a neighbor and most of the time a close fellow may produce anger and hatred. Such evil in the heart of a person will cultivate a seed of bitterness and when that is not dealt with from the root, the deadly venom of the bitterness may produce an un-welcome result. Therefore, it is imperative that we do not wait to be destroyed by such demonic entity called bitterness; rather we seek the face of God for healing.
Ahitophel, a man of wisdom who loved God, fell out of grace and died as a result of bitterness which was stemmed from his reaction to the wrongful behavior of King David on his grand-daughter, Bathsheba ( 2 Sam 11:1 – 27 and 2 Sam. 23:34). He harbored this sentiment in his heart to look for a revenge on the King. When that did not happen, he ended up committing suicide. (2 Sam 17: 1– 23).
It is very important to note that he loved God, he offered sacrifices unto God yet, was over powered by this invisible and dangerous seed of bitterness. Bitterness can take anyone by surprise. The bible makes it known to us not to allow the root of bitterness to grow up from within.
“Make sure that no one misses out on God’s grace. Make sure that no root of bitterness grows up that might cause trouble and pollute many people”. (Heb. 12:15)
“See to it that no one misses the grace of God (favor) and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.
Just as a person weakened by an animal’s venom needs to be given an antidote to counteract the actions of the potent chemical or face its consequences, so must bitterness be destroyed in an individual’s life with a sense of urgency. Listed below are some of the practices when adhered to can reverse the actions of this deadly venom of bitterness.
1. Forgiveness, the bridge that leads into divine victory.
By definition, forgiveness is an act of love, mercy, and grace that is expressed towards an offender. A choice we make out of our own will (Webster Dictionary). It enables us to have a clear sight or vision of our lives’ path into victory.
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. ”
Paul Boese states that “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it enlarges the future.”
The subject of forgiveness is one of the characters or pillars that builds an individual’s life and places him/her into an arena of victory. When a person overlooks or forgives an offense, it is to such a person’s advantage and he/she receives the blessings of God. Human nature will teach us that we pay back evil with evil, but God admonishes us to do good to those who hate us (Rom. 12:14). Remember, as long as we maintain the path that leads into the eternal glory of God, we will bump into people because the road is narrow.” (Matt 7:13-14).
As you read this article, I believe you may one way or the other have been hurt by a loved one either before or now but I would like to entreat you to treat yourself with this antidote and let go of the issue. Always remember
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Prov. 19:11 (ESV).
Love prospers when fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends. Prov. 17:9 (ESV)
It is noted that, he who cannot forgive, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass. Louis Smedes once said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and later discover that the prisoner is you. Please forgive and let go. It is noted that, he who cannot forgive, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.
2. We must also learn to allow God to be the judge of what may have gone on between us and our neighbor. Taking matters in our own hands will not produce a good fruit rather committing the issue at hand before God and allowing Him to handle the situation in His own way will produce results. The bible says;
“Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD (Rom. 12: 19 NLT)
If God says He will, believe in him and let him handle your situation. Surely, He will do it. Allow the timing to be of God’s standard and not according to our clock. When you leave it with God, take your hand off it and allow Him to do His work. Vengence is His and not ours.
3.Look at the positive side of the problem and not the negative. By looking at the positive side of an issue and concentrating on it rather than looking at the wrong side of the situation is another antidote for bitterness.
Paul said” all things work for the good of those who love the Lord” (Rom. 8:28). With much emphases on the “all”, your situation that has made you bitter is for your good. The lord said, I know the plans that I have for you, not a plan of evil intentions, nor a plan to disgrace you rather, it is a plan to bring to you an expected end and a bright future. (Jer. 29:11).
Why not thank God for the troubles you may be going through now and allow his perfect plan to work in your live. Beloved, what has happened is for your good. May the Lord open your spiritual eyes to see it. Trust God and never hang onto the paws of bitterness and destroy your life. You are precious in the sight of God. Sometimes, when friends cannot coop with the glory on you, they may intend destroy it. See your situation as a gift from God and His plan to put you into your divine destiny. Move on with your life. Joseph said to his brothers, “even though you intended to do harm to me, God intended it for good, in order to preserve a numerous people, as he is doing today”(Gen. 50:20).
As I have indicated, bitterness stands out to be an inbuilt deadly agent that comes our way because of anger. It can only be controlled by the very individual who is affected. It is therefore a choice and the decision had to be made whether to keep it or to do away with it.
I therefore admonish you my dear friend, let go of whatever that has transpired between you and your loved one. Yes, it was such people you trusted and gave your life to. They are your brothers that have turned around to bring shame and disgrace upon your life, but God is able to change your story and make you a person of honor rather than dishonor. He is able to move you out from the pit and prison of life in which your loved ones may have placed you and make you a Prime Minister. He has done it before and He is able to do it again. Let go of the pain and take this antidote of bitterness. You will not die but leave and declare the glory of the lord your God.
Allow me to pray with you.
My Lord and Master, I pray for this child of yours. I commit his/her situation in your hands. I pray that the deadly effects of bitterness will not over power him/her as he/she leans on you. Cause him/her to rise from the pit of life where friends and loved ones have placed him/her. Don’t allow the enemy’s agenda to be fulfilled rather let your vengeance and your plan for his/her life come into place.
Master, make this reader an object of your blessings and may the hand that took and sustained the Israelites, your people from Egypt, bring divine favor into the life of this person. I pray that he/she will not be forgotten in this life but will soon come out of his/her pit and prison. Let there be a miracle of deliverance.
May the grace that fell on Joseph and the host of people that mastered the courage to deal with bitterness and overcame or have overcome, become accomplished in the life of this one. Let there be a moment of celebration for this your servant. I thank you Lord for such grace, mercy and favor in Jesus name. Amen !!!!